“[…] in the moment when I truly understand my enemy—understand him well enough to defeat him. Then in that very moment, I also love him. I think it’s impossible to really understand somebody what they want, what they believe and not love them like they love themselves and in that very moment when I love them…

“You beat them.” For a moment she was not afraid of his understanding.

“No you don’t understand. I destroy them, I make it impossible for them to every hurt me again. I grind them and grind them until they don’t exist.”

Ender’s Game by Orson Scott Card